Hi. I moved this article to my new website. Please read its updated and improved version there. Thank you.
The topic of compatibility between individual horoscopes has always been one of the most crucial ones in human society. This is for a number of reasons, the main one being that human beings are not only socially oriented, but everything one wants to achieve in life depends on their relationships with other people: family, clients, employers, acquaintances, friends, sexual partners, strangers, and so on.
I want to make it clear that comparing the horoscopes of two people, whether it will be called compatibility or synastry, whether it will be done with Western or Chinese Astrology, the method itself is not limited to love couples of any sexual orientation. Ancient Western authors, such as Claudius Ptolemy (2 century CE), contain material for comparing horoscopes not only of couples, but also of friends, enemies, and so on.
Another thing to note is that there are whole industries dedicated to dealing with people’s relationships, but especially between partners/couples. While I can not deny that some of the books on this subject are useful, because, after all, they are written by practitioners with years of experience and people at a deep level do have similar needs, there is something deeper and more inherent here, namely personal destiny, shown by your horoscope. In other words, without considering a native’s horoscope that applies to him / her alone, even the best specialists in any social field can only give general advice based on assigning you to a group and how this group reacts in certain circumstances. Again, although this might be useful, people are very complex individuals, composed of layers under layers and sophistication, which can be revealed in their fullness only by the reliance on the eternal principles / laws of this reality.
These principles and laws, in their general form, are dealt with and elucidated by the I Ching/Yi Jing – The Book of Changes (hexagrams 31, 32 and 37 concerning the subject of my article). And the I Ching is not only one of the oldest books and the oldest oracle, but a book full of wisdom. It is, however, written in a deceptively simple way that masks its incredible depth and multiplicity. Even if the gigantic differences in the various translations of this book could be overlooked, one would just have it translated into a modern language. But it is one thing to read a book, it is quite different to understand it, which is especially valid for Chinese Metaphysics and Ancient Astrology. The key thing is that even if one is able to decode the hexagrams from the I Ching, the book itself is just the beginning, that is, it gives the general rules, but how these rules will manifest in the lives of individuals is examined by Heaven Luck, namely Astrology.
When it comes to compatibility between individual horoscopes, the topic is multi-layered and can be viewed from different angles. This also applies both to the synastry of Four Pillars of Destiny, and to (Ancient) Western Astrology. Despite these variants of entering the horoscope, the fundamental principles must always be followed over the secondary and tertiary ones. What do I mean?
In this case, the fundamental principle is that everyone’s fate is different. Because of this fact, each native participates in different relationships (family, friendly, love, professional, etc.) based on their destiny shown in his or her horoscope. Of course, in order to have relationships, at least two people, that is, the second person of the given relationship considers the relationships in their life according to his / her horoscope, which differs from that of his / her partner and everyone else. And here is the first major mistake that the vast majority of those practicing modern Western Astrology and some practitioners of the Four Pillars of Destiny make.
This mistake is that before making an astrological synastry of the horoscopes of a couple or more people, it is absolutely essential to read their individual nativities. This is because of several reasons that could be summed up in the essence of (Ancient) Astrology, namely, that it shows the Path a Spirit chooses during this life of theirs. That is, the Four Pillars of Destiny method, in this case, shows what a Spirit needs, and what, and how, Shim has chosen to experience it, and this of course does not only apply to relationships with others, but also to the other major spheres of life. So the compatibility between two people can only be investigated after first establishing what each is looking for / what each of them needs before considering to what extent the combination of the two horoscopes is in sync with the needs of the people in question.
If this absolute fundamental principle is disregarded in the study of compatibility with Astrology, there are relatively frequent cases in which the compatibility / synastry between the two horoscopes is very good or even excellent and the relationship between the people gets broken/ends. Accordingly, one hears explanations of the kind of “free will,” “the complexity of human relationships”, “the modern dynamic way of life” and similar secondary and third-party factors, which, while somewhat valid, are far below the fundamental and eternal ones. Such practitioners who do not rely on the individual horoscopes of the two or more people in question, but go directly to analyzing their synastry / compatibility, do not take into account the key factor I explained above.
Here’s an example: if your partner/or your relationship with him/her is described in an X way, and you meet a person who you have with a strong attraction with, you are a great fit/have great synastry shown by comparing your two horoscopes, even though you both want both it and there are external indications that he/she is the one for you, unless the relationships between you is not described in the same X way, your relationship will not last. This is because, despite the strong attraction and harmony between you, there is no conformation at the level of Life path that subordinates the information displayed only by the synastry and neglects the individual needs of the given Spirit /native in this life.
Here is another example: if there are indications that your partner will have physical problems, he will be sick, etc, and you meet a rich man who is healthy, even if you have a nice synastry between your Four Pillars of Destiny horoscopes, he will not be your life partner.
Another example: if there are indications that your partner will travel a lot or live abroad, even if you encounter a very attractive woman with whom there is a mutual attraction/connection, good synastry, etc., she will not be your life partner. I want to make it clear that this does not mean that you can not have a relationship with such people if you both choose to do so (it is here where Man Luck comes in), but that this relationship will not last because it is not what you are ultimately looking for.
As far as the strong attraction in question is concerned, how it happens, how it is determined, when it happens, why it does not remain the same, I will touch on in the second part of this article.